Logged off: meet the teens who refuse to use social media
Logged off: meet the teens who refuse to use social media
Generation Z has grown up online – so why are a surprising
number suddenly turning their backs on Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat?
By Sirin Kale Wed 29 Aug 2018 01.00 EDT Last modified on
Wed 29 Aug 2018 04.45 EDT
For 17-year-old Mary Amanuel, from London, it happened in
Tesco. “We were in year 7,” she remembers, “and my friend had made an Instagram
account. As we were buying stuff, she was counting the amounts of likes she’d
got on a post. ‘Oooh, 40 likes. 42 likes.’ I just thought: ‘This is
ridiculous.’”
Isabelle, an 18-year-old student from Bedfordshire who
doesn’t want to disclose her surname, turned against social media when her
classmates became zombified. “Everyone switched off from conversation. It
became: ‘Can I have your number to text you?’ Something got lost in terms of
speaking face to face. And I thought: ‘I don’t really want to be swept up in
that.’” For 15-year-old Emily Sharp, from Staines in Surrey, watching bullying
online was the final straw. “It wasn’t nice. That deterred me from using it.”
It is widely believed that young people are hopelessly
devoted to social media. Teenagers, according to this stereotype, tweet, gram,
Snap and scroll. But for every young person hunched over a screen, there are
others for whom social media no longer holds such an allure. These teens are
turning their backs on the technology – and there are more of them than you might
think.
While many of us have been engrossed in the Instagram
lives of our co-workers and peers, a backlash among young people has been
quietly boiling. One 2017 survey of British schoolchildren found that 63% would
be happy if social media had never been invented. Another survey of 9,000
internet users from the research firm Ampere Analysis found that people aged
18-24 had significantly changed their attitudes towards social media in the
past two years. Whereas 66% of this demographic agreed with the statement
“social media is important to me” in 2016, only 57% make this claim in 2018. As
young people increasingly reject social media, older generations increasingly
embrace it: among the 45-plus age bracket, the proportion who value social
media has increased from 23% to 28% in the past year, according to Ampere’s
data.
This is part of a wider trend. According to a study by US
marketing firm Hill Holliday of Generation Z – people born after 1995 – half of
those surveyed stated they had quit or were considering quitting at least one
social media platform. When it comes to Gen Z’s relationship to social media,
“significant cracks are beginning to show”, says the firm’s Lesley Bielby.
She believes we will definitely see an increase in
younger people quitting or substantially reducing their use. “And as younger
Gen Zers notice this behaviour among their older siblings and friends, they too
will start to dial down their use of social media.”
As the first generation to grow up online, Gen Z never
had to learn social media, or at least not exactly. They glided through every
iteration: Facebook (2004), Twitter (2006), Instagram (2010) Snapchat (2011) in
real time, effortlessly adopting each one. But a life lived in pixels from your
earliest age is no easy thing.
“You start doing things that are dishonest,” says
Amanuel, who quit social media aged 16. “Like Instagram: I was presenting this
dishonest version of myself, on a platform where most people were presenting
dishonest versions of themselves.”
Like Amanuel, Jeremiah Johnson, 18, from Luton, grew
weary of the pressures of sustaining an online persona. “It’s a competition for
who can appear the happiest,” he says. “And if you’re not happy and want to
vent about it on social media, you’re attention-seeking.”
After being “bugged” by his friends to get Instagram (he
had stopped using Facebook aged 16), Johnson joined. He lasted six months. “If
you’re having a bad day and scrolling through it, you’re constantly bombarded
with pictures of people going to parties. Even if that’s not an accurate
portrayal of their lives, that’s what you see. So I stopped using it. It became
depressing. It was this competition of who’s the happiest.” He pauses.
“Participating in that is not something I’m interested in.”
Hyper-connected teens have been faced with a surfeit of
clicks, retweets and likes – and the dopamine rush of online validation – since
the neural pathways in their brains were formed.
“They’re becoming overwhelmed with the responsibility of
maintaining their social sites and with upholding the somewhat inflated persona
many have created on these sites, where they are constantly seeking approval
via the amount of likes they get for any given post,” Bielby says.
“The people who are the most honest about themselves do
not play the game of Instagram,” Amanuel says. “The game of Instagram is who
can maximise their likes by being the most risque, outrageous or conformist as
possible. I didn’t want to play that game.”
At school, social media can be a brutal barometer of
popularity. “If you meet someone new and they ask for your Instagram and you
only have 80 followers,” says Sharp, “they’re going to think: ‘You’re not that
popular’, but if you have 2,000 followers they’re going to be like: ‘You’re the
most popular person in school.’” Sharp quit social media at 13. “I’d rather not
know what other people think of me.”
A desire to build authentic, offline friendships
motivated some to quit. “I’m so much better at real-life socialising now,” says
Amanuel. “Not just those people you accept on a friend request who are friends
of a friend.”
For Tyreke Morgan, 18, from Bristol, being a hard man to
get hold of – he has no social media presence at all – has its advantages.
“Everyone goes through other people to find me,” Morgan laughs, “and when I
hear that they’re been trying to get hold of me I say: ‘Great!’ Why would I
need 500 flakey friends?”
But when you are from a digitally native generation,
quitting social media can feel like joining a monastery. Amanuel was recently
asked by co-workers if she had Snapchat. “I said no,” Amanuel remembers, “and I
instantly heard, like, gasps. It was like I’d revealed something disgusting.”
She explained that she did have a Snapchat handle, but never used it. “Relief
came out of their eyes! It was really weird.”
Teenagers not ready to quit entirely are stepping back
for a while. Dr Amanda Lenhart, who researches young people’s online lives,
conducted a survey of US teenagers, asking them about taking time off social
media. “We found that 58% of teenagers said they had taken at least one break from
at least one social media platform. The most common reason? It was getting in
the way of schoolwork or jobs, with more than a third of respondents citing
this as their primary reason for leaving social media. Other reasons included
feeling tired of the conflict or drama they could see unfolding among their
peer group online, and feeling oppressed too by the constant firehose of
information.”
Bielby agrees that young people are becoming more aware
of the amount of time they waste online. Of the young people Hill Holliday
surveyed who had quit or considered quitting social media, 44% did so, she
says, in order to “use time in more valuable ways”.
“I don’t know how people doing their A-levels or GCSEs
have the time for it,” says Isabelle. “They’re constantly studying, but their
only distraction is social media.” Rather than get sucked into a “mindless
vortex of never-ending scrolling,” as she puts it, when Isabelle isn’t studying
she prefers to be outdoors.
The fact that Gen Z have had their every move documented
online since before they could walk, talk, or even control their bowels helps
explain their antipathy to social media: it makes sense for them to strive for
privacy, as soon as they reach the age when they have a choice over their
online image.
“I’ve seen parents post pictures of their child’s first
potty online,” says Amy Binns of the University of Central Lancashire. “You
think: ‘Why are you doing this to your child? They wouldn’t want this to be
public.”
Gen Z has an interest in privacy that subtly sets them
apart. “Young people want to get away from the curtain-twitching village, where
everyone knows everything about you,” Binns says. So while today’s teens spend
a lot of time online, they don’t actually share that much personal information.
And when they do share, it’s strategic. “You’re painting a picture of who you
are and your image,” says Binns. “It’s your own shop window or brand.”
“Framing a picture and posting it on there is not a
five-minute thing,” says Amanuel, explaining that any post will be
well-thought-out in order to project a certain image and maximise likes. “It
takes hours of deliberation.”
“When social media started, we didn’t really know what it
was going to mean,” says Binns. “Young people are more aware of the value of privacy
than we were 10 years ago.”
Amanuel says that the Cambridge Analytica story, with its
exposure of widespread data harvesting, helped prompt her to get off social
media, and many more young people seem to be turning against Facebook; on
Tuesday, it was reported that the number of Facebook users aged 18 to 24 in
Britain is expected to fall 1.8% this year.
Some of the teens I spoke to were concerned about how
technologies such as Snap Map – a Snapchat feature that tracks your friends
geographically, in real time – were spreading through their schools, and
mistrustful of the privacy consequences of being surveilled by your followers
wherever you go. “Snap Map is this big thing with a lot of my friends, but
there is a sense of privacy that is being breached as well,” Isabelle says.
Teenagers are also educated about the ramifications of an
offensive tweet, or explicit picture, as well as the health consequences of too
much screen time. “Young people are being taught in schools about sharing nudes
and how tweets can travel around. They’ve seen the horror stories,” says Binns.
Isabelle agrees. “Constant screen time damages your
ability to see, and it also causes internal damage, such as anxiety.” Studies
have shown that social media use can negatively affect mental wellbeing, and
adolescents are particularly susceptible: one nationally representative survey
of US 13 to 18-year-olds linked heavier social media use to depression and
suicide, particularly in girls. And 41% of the Gen Z teens surveyed by Hill Holliday
reported that social media made them feel anxious, sad or depressed.
But quitting social media can create new anxieties. “Our
research shows that the biggest fear of quitting or pausing social media is
missing out,” Bielby says. Some are more sanguine than others. “Do I miss out
on stuff?” Morgan asks. “Yeah, of course. People find it hard to keep in
contact with me. They say: ‘It would be easier if you had this or that.’ But I
don’t think it’s that hard to type in my number and send a text. You’re just
not willing to do it.”
Others struggle with the fear of missing out. “It’s like
everyone in your friend group has gone to a party without telling you,” Johnson
says. At times, he questions himself. “I second-guess myself a lot. There are
some days I’m really convinced I want to reinstall it, not for myself, but
because I want to appear normal.”
Still, refuseniks such as Johnson may not be outliers forever.
In a world in which everyone is online, renouncing social media is a renegade,
countercultural move: as quietly punk as shaving your head or fastening your
clothes with safety-pins. Morgan has become a svengali for classmates wanting
to escape. “My friends come to me and say: ‘Tyreke, I don’t have social media
anymore,’ and I go: ‘Why? I thought that’s what you guys do.’ And they say:
‘Thanks to you, because of the things you said and the stuff you’re doing.’
It’s quite cool.”
Quitting social media is a determined move: apps
including Facebook and Instagram are designed to be addictive. “Social media is
so ingrained in teenage culture that it’s hard to take it out. But when you do,
it’s such a relief,” Amanuel says. She has received a lot of “admiration” from
her peers for quitting. “They wish they were able to log off. People feel like
social media is a part of them and their identities as teenagers and something
you need to do,” she says. “But I’m no less of a teenager because I don’t use it.”
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